Rest in Peace Mom

Born: 26th September 1947 Departed: 21st May 2010

Here's a picture of mom taken on 18th February 2010. That's 3 months before she left us forever. When mom left us a mixture of feelings happen to me. I can be sad as sad I can be but I can't be too sad also because I am carrying a baby and I have my own family to worry. So many things happens that even my aunt Beatrice is so worried how am I going to cope with my own life and health. I even have to call her everyday to tell her that everything is OK. God bless you aunty. Thanks so much for your love, care and support - like my sister said Aunty Beatrice has become our second mom. Now 3 weeks has passed, I just had to be strong and try to appreciate what's left and all the blessings that happen along the way. In fact, in the midst of troubles I find that God has blessed me with so many wonderful people and events/circumstances that take my worries away. Many times how I wish mom would still be here to see her 4th grandson arrive in the labour room like she did for the rest of the grandchildren. I never had confinement lady because mom will cook my favorite chicken lihing soup, herbal bath and even bake me a cheese cake when I had Titi. Now that mom is gone, I guess I have to learn to be even stronger. Especially with the coming of our new baby. God, please give me the courage to face the coming days and wisdom to decide when troubles come my way. Mom - missing you terribly but don't worry about me. I'm one tough cookie. Just want to share a piece of thought (I might use this with my own children someday)... taken from: inspiringthots

A Parent's Wish

To our dear child, On the day when you see us old, weak and weary, Have patience and try to understand us.

If we get dirty when eating, If we can not dress on our own, Please bear with us and remember the times We spent feeding and dressing you up.

If, when we speak to you, We repeat the same things over and over again, Do not interrupt us. Listen to us.

When you were small, We had to read to you thousand and one times The same story until you went to sleep.

hen we do not want to have a shower, Neither shame nor scold us. Remember when we had to chase you With your thousand excuses to get you to the shower.

When you see our ignorance on new technologies, Help us navigate our way through those world wide webs.

We taught you how to do so many things, To eat the right foods, to dress appropriately, To fight for your rights.

Then at some moment we lose the memory Or the thread of our conversation, Let us have the necessary time to remember. And if we can not, do not become nervous,

As the most important thing is not our conversation, But surely to be with you and to have you listening to us.

If ever we do not want to eat, do not force us. We know well when we need to and when not to.

When our tired legs give way And do not allow us to walk without a cane, Lend us your hand. The same way we did, you first tried your faltering steps.

And when someday we say to you, That we do not want to live any more. That we want to die! Do not get angry. Some day you will understand.

Try to understand that our age is not lived but survived. Some day you will realize that, despite our mistakes, We always wanted the best thing for you And we tried to prepare the way for you.

You must not feel sad, angry nor ashamed For seeing us near you. Instead, try to understand us and help us Like we did when you were young.

Help us to walk. Help us to end our way with love and dignity.

We will pay you by a smile and by the immense love We have always had for you in our heart.

We love you child, Mom and Dad